A few things left out of EHarmony’s 29 Dimensions of compatibility

By Stephen Pate – The ads for on-line dating service look great with couples, well the same few couples, who found marriage and happiness through the eHarmony online dating service.

The truth for a D.C. woman who met her true-love on eHarmony was slightly different. She disappeared on Valentine’s Day after meeting with her eHarmony boy friend. The police cannot find her dead or alive.

Pam Butler, 47 and a computer specialist, was a fastidious almost compulsive person with a $120,000 a year job and rental properties in debt meltdown. Her home front and back was covered with surveillance cameras that recorded four views on her computer.

Jose Rodriguez-Cruz 44 was an ex-military policeman who suffered from PTSD. He had a history of violence and aggression with past romantic partners

He came to her house. They argued and she has never been seen again. Without a trace the police are stymied.

Jose Angel Rodriguez-Cruz, her live-in boyfriend, said she told him it was over and he left. He was the last one to see her alive. He insists he did nothing to harm her.

“As for why the computer matched them, he cited eHarmony’s “29 dimensions of compatibility,” saying that he and Butler agreed on the most important qualities in a relationship — “trust, communication, physical affection” — and had common likes and dislikes.”

“For one thing, we were both very neat and orderly,” he said. From the night they started dating in September last year, he said, he was “forthcoming about everything” in his past, including “my psychological problems,” which he said are a result of his military service.” The Washington Post

He made $40,000 a year and rented. She made $120,000 a year and owned shared interest in 14 rental units. It doesn’t seem like they were too well matched.

The story is fascinating. The eHarmony ads are just ads and who believes advertisements no matter how sincere they look.

For the rest of the story, see Woman vanishes, leaving a trail with no end, The Washington Post